My Epiphany ..........We all want the same thing

Monday, August 6, 2012

I read something today that really made me think ...When I first started to read it, I was thinking oh please what is this but then I read on and it hit me like a ton of bricks .....I can finally say I had an epiphany, I had an enlightening realization that caused me to see certain people, myself included from a new and deeper perspective........

We all have this great need to have someone to talk to and someone to help us sort out our problems but even when we get that help and find that person we are so selfish we want more more more but never consider giving back anything ......

It's always us whining things like "no one loves me" "No one listens to me"  "No one cares" but yet we keep our self guarded so much how does anyone even know when we are in trouble ....

We choose to blame other people for our world falling apart instead of saying "Excuse me I need help holding my world together" ....

We as humans put our self in categories such as Givers, Takers, Broken, and Fixers and yet we never understand why when we are playing fixer or giver to someone that is a taker and broken we never receive back ......

We have made our self so labeled we have suddenly all become confused on where we even want to belong ....... So we see the broken person as a selfish person and we walk away looking for someone else to fix and give to

The same thing goes with someone who has labeled themselves takers and broken.... We just walk around our hands extended. and a bleeding heart and expect someone anyone to please fix us ...But when someone expect us to be there and we are not we get offended when they walk pass us annoyed because we didn't sense their hurt after all they do for us .....

We let bitterness grow because we then see that person as someone who break us and never give us anything instead they take .....We believe this so deeply that we keep the circle going until nothing is left only resentment and hurt feelings and sometimes a bitterness that can never be repaired...So then we start a new search for a new giver and fixer

This is where my great epiphany comes in .........Why are we all so different when we are all so much alike ....Life is a continuous circle of broken, fixers, givers and takers who are all looking for the same thing ....To be loved and reassured that someone has our back and somehow we all hope that we could have that blind faith that whatever we need or need to be, someone will just say Thank You or I'm glad you trust me enough to help....

I have a fixer and giver in my life and some days they know exactly what to do or say to mend my brokenness but some days they don't fix it ...Some days they even make me feel worst and I leave more broken and bitter but now I realize that maybe that day I was meant to put aside my brokenness and hold their hand and give myself to that person and walk beside them until they can trust me enough to share their brokenness with me .....

I know this may not make sense to a lot of people and I doubt very much if it will change anything in the world by someone reading this today ......But we have to learn from lessons  and a wonderful little note left by a beautiful wise lady to someone that she surely loves and appreciates helped me finally have an epiphany and helped me understand that no one person is appointed to be there for us and fix us when we are broken and we are not expected to have all the answers ....Sometimes we have to fix our self ...The only one thing we should be expected to do is to have compassion for our fellow beings here on earth and even when we can't give or take, just smile with compassion ........

The word “‍compassion‍” comes from the Latin com-pati “‍suffer together‍” and what else is there to say after that

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